Carrie Bradshaw (Sarah Jessica Parker) wrote about love, but did she really understand love? Sex and the City inspired many women to own their sexuality and take back the power from men. The show often made this idea seem both absurd and idolised. Samantha Jones (Kim Cattrall) for example, would sleep with any man that so much as looked at her and called it ’empowerment’ wheres Carrie would go as far as to sleep with a man for an experiment for her column.
Miranda (Cynthia Nixon) is a confident, hard-headed lawyer who doesn’t sleep with men as much as the other girls but can rock a suit much better than any man. She knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to take it but she also doesn’t date that much either. In one episode in Season 1, her colleague sets her up with a woman and she retorts with ‘Gosh, since when did being single translate into ‘I’m gay’. Because she dresses like a man, she is the archetype of a scorned woman who treats men with little empathy and judges them for small flaws.
Charlotte York (Kristen Davis) is the typical New York princess who wants a nice husband, house, kids and sex. Charlotte doesn’t play up to the ‘mad sex’ theme rather she’s actually quite repressed and afraid of it. She tries to pin down a man for a whole season unlike Samantha and Carrie who enjoy different men each episode. In nature, the woman is meant to submit to the man and give up power, this is what Carrie wanted to challenge in her column. She felt that she had confidence and power after sleeping with a man that held no emotional connections.
Is this ideology good for women? That women can have fun in the city, sleep with men and leave afterwards. As Carrie puts it ‘having sex like a man’. Is this female empowerment and something to be looked on as modern, fun and fashionable or absurd that women change their roles by not maintaining normal relationships. It’s really all about society and what you’re told to do but there is something to be learned from, a relationship is anything you want it to be. You can make your own rules, no one can make you do anything with your body or morals, Carrie notes that ‘maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free, until they find someone just as wild to run with’. Sex and the City is a hilarious romp but definitely don’t look to the TV for sex or love advice because that’s a sure way to scupper a relationship before it’s even started.