As a new student at DMU, you may have been given all sorts of advice on settling in at university. Make the most of it, have fun, work hard, play hard…sound familiar? But being on the autistic spectrum can make a new and busy environment feel more bewildering than exciting. So if you, as a student on the spectrum, are not sure what to make of it all, here are just a few things to bear in mind.
Don’t rush into joining societies and other social groups.
Joining societies is an easy way to make time for what you enjoy doing the most, as well as an opportunity to get to know people. Remember, though, that the university lifestyle is a busy one, so you may want to get accustomed to your routine first. Societies are always worth a try, but just make sure you know you have the time for one before you make any definite decisions.
Be open and matter-of fact about your condition.
That doesn’t mean it should be the first thing you tell everyone you meet, but telling people when the opportunity arises will help them understand early on any difficulties you have. If you find yourself talking with someone about how you are finding university so far, explain that you are autistic and struggle with change or being around lots of people. Similarly if a student or staff member is confusing you, tell them that you are autistic and ask them to repeat what they just said. Not only will that make it easier for them to understand you, but also you never know how many other people – autistic or otherwise – will have similar feelings to yours.
Look for opportunities
May sound simple to most people, but as an Asperger’s student, retaining information that hasn’t been told to me directly is something I’ve always found hard. Listening out for events that your lecturers might mention or noticing posters or Facebook announcements is a good start. However, if you’re like me, it might be easier if you think about what sort of opportunities you are interested in (social events, work experience, voluntary work, etc.) and research them. Also don’t be afraid to ask your lecturers about any course related opportunities that may or may not have been mentioned.
Don’t take on more than you can manage
You may feel like there is a lot of pressure to join societies and be as sociable as possible. Do go a little way out of your comfort zone if it means finding more activities you enjoy, but don’t push yourself so hard that you are too physically and mentally tired to enjoy yourself – or, more importantly, study. Most students’ goals for uni are to learn as best as they can and have fun, so don’t be too busy to manage either!
Chat to people
It might not always feel easy, but if you look around you during a lecture, these are the people you are going to be working with for the next three or four years. Don’t panic if you seem to be taking a while to make friends – regardless of what it looks like, many students do take a long time to make friends. When you sit next to someone during a lecture or seminar, introduce yourself. Ask them where they’re from, what they think of any work that’s been set, how they’re finding uni, and be prepared for them to ask you the same. Remember to listen as well, when it’s their turn to talk, and try to show an interest in what they are saying!
