When I was younger, I was often told that boys loved a girl with confidence over any other trait or look. If a girl was sassy and knew she was sassy; great. If a girl told herself she was beautiful then it would radiate like the sun and if a girl put on a killer outfit and told everybody it was so then she would be a style icon, so on and so forth.
In order to keep up the bright confidence streak that stems from the idea that we are all beautiful in our own ways, a young woman named Claire Boniface started a social experiment where she would agree with men when they complimented her.
In an interview with The Huffington Post, the twenty year old student said: “Often when I get messages on that site [Tumblr] simply complimenting me I just ignore them because the compliments are never sincere and I see no reason to respond, so I thought I would try out a simple response of ‘yes’ and see what would happen.”
In doing this, Boniface screen captured her responses, and let me tell you; they are not what you’d expect. In this simple exchange that caused one Tumblr user to go from compliment to a retraction in a matter of minutes showed the essence of Boniface’s social experiment.
The funniest thing about this entire situation is their; as Boniface describes it, ‘confused response’ to the fact that women are not only accepting the compliments but are actually agreeing to them. What a travesty.
God forbid a young, beautiful, intelligent woman should accept and agree a compliment about their looks or personality. I have always seen feminism as a stance for equality between men and women; not just in the pay gap, in a place of work or learning, in relationships and even on the dance floor amongst many other places, but also in the confidence department.
Women should not be dismissed for being the confidence creatures that were told to be when we were young girls. We would look up to icons like Beyoncé for their sense of self and confidence that draws so many people to follow suit. Yet with this horrible turn of dismissal and sheer nastiness, it is causing even more doubt within women.
It would be life-altering if every woman on this planet looked in the mirror and told themselves that the part of their bodies they hated most is what made them truly beautiful. But by doing this; and this is hard evidence compiled by Boniface, it makes me want to hide under a rock until life has just blown over.
It reminds me of that scene in Mean Girls that captions this article where Regina tells Cady that she’s pretty; but when Cady simply says, “thank you,” Regina in her very mean manor spits: “So you agree – you think you’re really pretty?” And let’s be honest, we all know how Mean Girls ended.